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Pride - what I've learnt from you

Wednesday 15 January 2014

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Hello everyone

So this is a topic that has been on my mind for a while and I find myself talking about it indirectly almost all the time.
People sometimes cannot help but be so proud. Their shoulder pads are higher than those of our beloved village women. I definitely know people who I look at and go please stop being so proud.
You see, I have experienced some kinda pride in  people that I almost want to say you sound like a broken record.

A few scenarios;


I was way younger then when I called this lady ( I'm going to call her this lady in this post for confidentiality purposes and pretty much so she doesn't know it's her). She saw a friend who came to visit (who happens to be a well-known blogger here on blogsville) off and innocent teenage me called to see if she was alright as she didn't arrive back home on time. Goodness, she spoke to me as though she was talking to some slave from 1842. I wanted to melt, that was the gravity of how she spoke. If only I could have yanked her hair from where I was. You see this lady acts as though she is on the highest of the highest class and every other person is under feet. I HATE THAT!
She got married and we haven't seen each other ever since but because I am very niceee I have reached out to her.
Sometimes I try to reason why she is like so but 85% of the time I cannot just comprehend.
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Pride goes before destruction (Prov 16.8), I definitely do not want her to fall which is why I wanted her to desperately change at the time.
I realised one thing, you cannot change everyone. They'll always be what they choose and decide to be. However they wish to carve themselves that's how they'll be. This is not a new story of course.
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Then fast forward years later, another experience.
This individual condemns everything you do no matter how good it is, she always has a better or cheaper alternative but the fact is she so DOESN'T. Le Sisto and I literally prep ourselves for her negative comment and show of pride. In her books, she is the pro at every single thing.
Lesson learnt from her; no matter what you do, people are never satisfied and will never completely appreciate what you've done as good or better than what they can do. Therefore, never rely on people's approval on things or else they'll continue to dent your confidence to the point you lose interest in what you are seeking their approval for. Give what you love to do the best shot!

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And the other, this individual shows off about every single thing. You name it....according to X, H's either got it, got a negative opinion or point blank shuts your idea down.  Oh I have a house with 16 bedrooms and a convoy came to get us from school and I have the best attire ever. Before you finish your sentence, you're interrupted by someone raising their voice just to show off some more.  Points gained from this;  you don't need to show off to be respected. You don't have to reveal everything you have  to belittle others rather bless others from what you have and you'll be respected.
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Better still...

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These are all minute examples.

But seriously do you have to show off?
When people are proud, sometimes I regard that as being kinda insecure. You don't want people to look down on you. I still believe people won't look down on you if you're humble. As I say almost all the time here, I am not trying to be proud....by saying some people are proud. I'm just sharing my observations....sounds like something I do at all times being h/c prof..
I always try to be humble and try my hardest not to come across as proud, of course I am not perfect but I do take conscious steps not come across as proud.

Pride - I've learnt quite a lot from thee.

You guys learnt or experienced such?

2014 is a new year....taking blogging seriously!

Twitter - @mizzitee

Love,




43 comments:

  1. Pride kills! That's all i have to say.

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  2. Happy New Year Missy...
    Wow that woman sounds like she's headed for trouble. King Nebuchadnezzar in the bible was punished by God for his pride...I pray that God will open people's eyes and help us all to have true humility.

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    1. GG - I pray she doesn't get into it. Amen! Happy new year GG!

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  3. Happy New Year hun.

    "I detest the proud" says the Lord of host. I do a periodic sweep of my life and I'm constantly aware of the need to curb my back-patting before it turns to pride. But a lot of people are unable or downright unwilling to audit themselves. I find that they are not even the most accomplished, most interesting or most beautiful etc of the lot. Which begs the question 'why so proud?'. She'll figure it out someday, hopefully, it won't be too late then.

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    1. Mi Cherrywine!! Exactly...a lot people find it extremely hard and some just point blank won't audit themselves. I hope she does, I really do. Thanks Missy and happy new year

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  4. Oh well....pride truly goes before fall.
    Happy new Year Missy!

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    1. HoneyD darl - *sigh* it is well. Happy new year.

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  5. I hope someone sets her straight before....

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    1. Toin Toin....before I do right? I know lol *huge grin* it is well with her love

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  6. Showing off is a big turn off....even God doesn't like proud people

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    1. Sykik - As in I totally hate it. The hatred cannot be quantified....

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  7. Aww, nice write up!
    Please visit: www.mimiubini.com

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  8. Like they say "pride is too proud to admit..." I hope she learns.

    Happy new year to you!

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    1. Dayor: I like those words. I hope so too. Happy new yearrr!

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  9. Exactly, Pride comes before fall. A huge fall fah.

    May God help us oh.

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    1. Tommie : lol at Fah, Le Sisto says that a lot.
      Amen!
      Thanks Missy

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  10. Lol. People like these make the world more interesting. See, you are even writing about them.

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    1. Interesting indeed and they also make others better people e.g Moi

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    2. Atilola : Interesting indeed and they also make others better people e.g Moi

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  11. Happy new year to you darling...and yes i do agree with on the pride thing..and also some people tend to throw their success in your face too ...plain annoying.

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    1. Martha: They forget easily that it's easy to fall back down to where they just rose from

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  12. My opinion is, when you see a proud fellow, there's actually some insecurity hoarding somewhere
    I cannot stand proud people at all

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  13. Ha!!! I love your pics. hey had me rolling! Yes ooh, pride is def a mask of insecurity.

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  14. People who are often proud are those who have attained small heights they didnt imagine they would in their lives. Sad! Well written!

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    1. Nonye: hmmmmmmm you are very right. Sharp statement

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  15. New on your blog..I love the easy u write. Totally agree wt u on the pride issue. People are very amnesiac..they forget we shall all return 2the dust someday..there really ain't no time for pride!!
    xoxo fm Kenya!

    kazinidaily.blogspot.com

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  16. pride always goes before a fall and what do we really have to be proud of? life? talents? money? they are all given and can be taken by God. I pray against pride everyday cuz the truth is, its a very easy trap to fall into...

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    1. Francis: it's easy to forget how they/we got/get them all

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  17. My dad has always been a great example for humility and I love that about him. Thanks for stopping by my blog :)

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    1. Awww that must be nice. He's thy role model. Sure dear...anytime

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  18. hello tee!

    Shey u know some ppl don't even know they are proud.., and they will fight with you sef if you try to correct them.

    You did a good thing,by reaching out to her even when she wanted you to feel less.

    And for the show offs, well, u just said it all.
    thanks for stopping by my blog bae! :)

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    1. I know right glowingscenes.
      Thanks darl...I had to try at least.

      Anytime dear

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  19. Thanks for stopping by my blog darling. This pride thing ehn, it's only personal conviction that can change the person.

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  20. True talk. This is one that's often on my mind...being careful not to become big headed. But here's the question: How do you draw the line between pride and doing best to protect one's space/self respect.

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  21. MsTizzle: Anytime love. Hmmm never thought of that. True!

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  22. T.Notes: That's the thing, sometimes pride comes across the wrong way so it could be an attempt at protecting personal space but external individuals will regard that as pride. Perhaps we need to be tactical with how we protect personal space so it doesn't appear as pride? Thanks Missy!

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  23. My neighbour once told me that we were only fortunate to be his co-tenants. He for some reason thinks he's the best of everyone in Lagos- his 2 cars are tokunbo and did i mention he's a tenant too?

    Pride!!!!!!!!!!!

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  24. Pride does go before a fall (y) Thanks for sharing.

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