I want a divorce.......She said

Tuesday 23 September 2014

Hey guys
Thanks for reading and commenting on my last blog post. I really enjoyed the book and when I do get the chance to read another book from start to finish, I'll let you all know.

So I said at the end of my previous post that this post will be about divorce. Well here it is;
NB: Some facts of the story have been changed such as age, years, gender, and blah di blah out of respect.
A couple who had four kids together. They had been married for over a decade and they seemed like a really close knit family. The wife was the "always want to be classy" type and didn't care at whose expense. She loved it, she wanted it, she got it. She was an upcoming entrepreneur. While the husband happened to be the "my wife is classy so I should be too" type. He was (always trying to keep) keeping up with her. He called her K-babes and all sorts of pet names that youths use these days. But we all seemed to notice that he was scared of her. He was a business analyst and worked in one of the big companies in the city but he quit his job a couple of years earlier because she told him to - SERIOUSLY???!!!. He had a pretty good income- well at least from how he looked, he looked like he did.

K-babes barely played the role of the wife. They barely ate a proper meal in the house as far as I knew at the time. They had things like thin-cut oven fries, chicken nuggets and juice...things like that. She was the type that once she heard about someone having a party, she would definitely have A LOT of takeaway packs. Classy ladies (in her own case) don't cook. To be honest, she was just a lazy wife, very proud and looked down on people greatly.

Back to the topic, we noticed that the wife began travelling out of the country a whole lot. She just always had a reason to be out. We did not really suspect any wrong doing because we thought "business was booming" so she had to be in China, Nigeria, USA, Peru, Trinidad and so on.
Suddenly, we noticed that her kids started looking unkempt. The man started wearing hideous clothes and looked more and more unkempt. He started going to people's houses with his kids just so they could get something to eat (Well a guy that can cook is definitely a keeper ha!) while K-babes was touring the world. All of a sudden, this man was told to withdraw from his role as Deacon in church and warned not to take on any ministerial tasks, along with his Mrs. Then it was made clear that he had been cheating, and his own type of cheating was 'communicating with his ex' without anyone knowing even his kids and Mrs. 

I thought to myself, please what is wrong with talking to your ex? I don't always see why people break up and become enemies, perhaps because I don't buy the idea that exes=enemies - life is too short! Anyways, that was the reason for the marriage shake-up.
The additional shocker - he had a child with this ex and no one knew. He did not tell K-babes even before they got married. K-babes returned to the country and went to every length to finish this man off, she stripped him of his car, right to his kids, house, ...everything. He had nada! She went as far as feeding her kids with ridiculous ideas about their dad that all 4 of them would say embarrassing things in public about their dad such as "he's a jerk, he left us, he ran away, he was hiding". There were times where she would go as far as calling the police to arrest him but there was really no offence for him to be arrested. He eventually moved out of the family house to an unknown location.

Good Read: The Book by T.D Jakes

Sunday 7 September 2014

Hey lovelies

Thanks to everyone who commented on the last post. Glad we found it!
First I want to call some people out, Honeydame. Nonye, Gospel Girl ...just to name a few.
I was going to call out Cherrywine and Toin but they're back....
Chantel is also channelling her inner feminist ;-) - please visit her blog.

So this post is about my summer read. I started this unconsciously last year - the aim is to read at least a book during summer.

Last year I read The Return of The Runaway Bride authored by Donna Fasano. I enjoyed this book so much I went on and on and on about it to people and tried to get them to read the book. When I got to the end of the book, I was smiling hard. I love love stories.
I'm certain I'll still read this book sometime soon. It's that good.

So this year, I started reading a book at the beginning of the year - I still haven't finished the book right now. The book: Pictures of Lily authored by Paige Toon.

I do hope I get to finish this book sometime soon - I realised that its not a good idea to start a book when you OBVIOUSLY won't have the time to read it no matter how hard you try.

On Instagram, I saw pictures of T.D Jakes' new book called Instincts - The Power to Unleash Your Inborn Drive. I had to have it. Something about the book just seemed catchy. Anyway, I bought it and started reading it at the beginning of August and aimed to finish it at the end of August, sure I did finish it on the 31st, sometime in the evening. Chuffed!

This book has some interesting points that won't appeal to people who don't believe in reading 'self-help, religious self-help' books. T.D Jakes has a way of saying things that just makes you wonder or think deep even though what he might be saying may be an everyday topic.
I'm not going deep into the book here....go get and read it well. You can borrow my copy of the book, but you have to return it in very good and neat condition ha!
Some of the points I got from the book includes (in my own words);
- Being the very educated individual you are, you can describe a thing in full detail such as how you aim to win a contract -what strategy to use and all. But only your instincts can help you win the contract (tricky huh?) no matter how hard you use your intellect to describe it.
- Taking someone's silence as consent is a very unwise - Bishop Jakes used the word "unwise" and I kind of feel like he really wanted to say "foolish/silly" but was being very smart and professional
- He also explained that your thoughts should remain your thoughts and no one else's because it epitomises your being--who you are, what you stand for
- He also emphasised the need for people not to despise little beginnings, even when it involves moving out of your oh so comfort zone
Let me leave you with those....for now.

The second one hit me hard because sometimes when friends (for example) upset/annoy me, I might stay quiet but it doesn't mean that I'm pleased with what they did or I don't want to insult them badly. I just have my way of handling such...which might involve staying quiet (for a while) and then.....

The lion does not make so much noise when he is watching his prey....he stays quiet!
But when the lion does make noise, the entire kingdom recognises and bows to authority. Got that from a sermon I listened to.

So follow your instincts guys, don't rely on your degrees, knowledge and expertise because they may only be able to get you to a limited level, but not through the glass ceiling to the target.

Have a good week!


Stay safe.


PS. the next post might be about divorce. Got some question y'all might be able to help answer! Post soon.