*Random post alert*
Eti sen
(Dear lovely Ghanaians, please correct me if I am wrong)
So for years now, I have been professing my love for Ghana. Like seriously, one would actually think I am hooked to a Ghanaian but that is not the case.
Now my obsession with Ghana began about six years or so ago and every time I have put it in my to do or more like to go list, I have always uhmmmmm skipped it for something else. Yes she is a busy lady.
Whenever, I see Ghanaians I always love talking to them and their accent to me is jest off de chain!! (just off the chain). I am sooooo much in like with their accent because it just makes me smile.
I met a Ghanaian on one of my days out with my friend and we were heading to the train station to catch the train (Missy Tee what else will you go catch at a train station? A private jet? You do not have to explain what you were going to catch they already know. Ahh miss oxbridge).
Anyway, a friend who stays in the city we went to visit (Shef.) was very kind when we met at one of the very wonderful pretty colourful building we visited. We had to do a fun task as a team and this person happened to be on our team #thingsyoudowhenyouareatouristandthepeopleyoumeet. It was snowing cat and dogs so we were offered a ride to the train station as we had no car with us that day. When we got in the car, my fab friend struck a conversation about Ghana and its people. The music playing in the warm car, I was freezing cold in my socks, was Ghanaian music and I was just amazed at how lovely the song was and although I did not understand a word of it, it was just so danceable. So while in the car, my friend was talking about Banku- I believe that's a Ghanaian delicacy and I tried describing it and my dear at some point I just had to shut up because I just could not describe it right.
So enroute , we had a little tour of S.field. We saw the S.field foot and all that, the weird looking roads and buses. Twas fun. Anyway, we had a little discussion about Ghanaians being very colourful, funny and united and we had a good laugh in a space of about 15 mins. My friend said she attended a Ghanaian party and it was full of laughter, colour and plenty FOOD!! Well I think Africans are known for that.
When we got to the train station and we said bye to our heaven sent angel (it was snowing heavily so the ride had to be from God ha!) We both said , that was nice and fun.
I kind of wish now that I asked who sang the song playing and had written the track title down. Looking back now I am kind of rolling my eyes at myself.
Hello beautiful people.
This is just a lil post to say
Happy Resurrection Sunday. Enjoy it and have a blissful one.
I know you've heard this before but it won't hurt to hear or read it again..... Remember the reason for the season *I can so see you rolling your eyes right now!
Hola!!
Como estas? bien supongo?
(How are you? Fine I guess?)
So the 'relationship' talk came up again in one of my talks with the Ami . Thank goodness this one did not end in an argument.
We were talking about the main reason for going in a relationship.
From my point of view on what others think, I think majority of the ladies out there go in a relationship because they feel it is a necessity; they can't be alone without a man in their lives. I am not disputing this however I believe men also go into relationships because they just want to have a woman in their life for the moment- this is when they are not so ready or even planning on getting married in the nearest future.
Therefore, the ladies become exploited due to the patriarchal power the men have- some women and men give their all in relationships because they believe the other person is serious and would be their future partner. Minority of the people in this kind of scenario do go on to get married and all that because their feelings are mutual however majority end up in heartbreaks and all.
This topic is a bit confusing and rambling- don't be surprised if you are a bit lost with this.
Like always. here's a scenario;
a friend of mine who is still pretty young and in terms of marriage is not so ready for it right now was telling me about her "ex". According to her, she felt like she had a loose knot in her head when she was in the relationship. She said he would call her at night and say he is hungry and she will take her time out to cook for him and when she does call him to come pick the food up- he'd tell her to bring it over to his house which is not that close to hers. She also said during his birthdays- she bought him really expensive gifts and I can't seem to remember what she said she bought him once; he refused it and said why would she buy such "cheap" thing which was not SO or even cheap at all blah blah. So she said she apologised and took him to the store and on arrival at the store, she saw a really expensive gift and told him to take of which he embarrassed her or something- this was a long time ago so I do apologise that I can't remember the full story anymore.
She did explain that she thought she was mad in love with this dude but at the end, it turned out that he just wanted a "maid" or "girl figure" so he looked goooooddd in the midst of his friends. It turned out that the guy then realised that my lovely friend had stopped him in his tracks and he started begging. Thank God she was quick to get out of it.
My point- why exactly did she go in a relationship? She thought she loved him and thought it was high time she had some "man" power or figure in her life when that was the least of the things she needed.
Anyways, she did get out of that one- and has learnt her lesson so she is still single for now.
My friend said- this is another friend who is now married;
I need a man to complete me and not to rely on because majority of the women out there believe they need to rely on a man to be able to make it in life or be comfortable.
I agreed with her on the spot and really thought about it hard afterwards. I do not think ladies need men to make it in life, be comfortable and all that as they ok lemme say we think. This friend of mine was and is MADE and when I say MADE i mean MADE I don't want to over exaggerate things now but she was pretty comfortable . If marriage was not a necessity I doubt if she'd actually have gone into it. She was comfortable as a spinster although she was pretty quiet and we had loads and loads of shopping, movies and lunch days oh how I miss you girl...see how marriage has moved you away from the city now :-(- I'm glad she is married though so I am not complaining. Even on her wedding day, you could see that she was complete- it was like a little piece of a puzzle being inserted into its place.
She made me understand that sometimes if you rely on men, you do not get the push to better yourself or be someone of your own, it makes you subordinate to men and vice versa if you are a man. But what can I say. Her words keep ringing in my mind whenever I think about the "relationship" topic.
When I see ladies hopping from one man to another, I keep thinking they could save themselves a lot of money, time, emotional stress and all that by waiting for the "right" one to "complete" them.
So I can clarify things in my mind and to get everyones opinion on the topic- I have brought it here for you guys to please read and share you thoughts. What do you think? Thanks
PS- has anyone seen Good Deeds- Tyler Perry's new movie????? Oh my goodness- I absolutely love that movie to pieces. And why does Tyler Perry look so cute in that movie? Why aren't you a little younger and residing in my hood Tyler? *sigh* LOL.
Ok did I tell you guys that I got chocolate for Valentine's? At least I got something however small- I won't tell you who gave me the choc! Here is a picture of the chocolate bar. What?? chocolate is chocolate whether bar or not. And I'm still waiting for Honeydame to share chinchin so I will let you guys know when she does. :-)
Bloghearts
I have been away for too long so please forgive me.
This is just a quickie to say that I still follow peoples blogs and do comment.
Right now, I am doing a lot of reading- in terms of reading other blogs so I do apologise for being quiet here. I 'll be back soon.
But here's a quick hello and are you good to you guys.
Keep do your thing all!!
Also its my lovely cousin's birthday today and what else is there to do than say a huge Happy Birthday to him using this medium. Happy Birthday Yung Slick.
Yung Slick
Exactly a year ago today, I put up a post saying Happy Birthday to my lovely man right here.He is a year older and I'd love to send some love his way AGAIN.
Happy Birthday cuzzo.
Many many many more years to come darling.
I do hope you have a wonderful day- Enjoy it to the fullest.
God's blessings.
Luv you plentayyyyy darl!
Thanks to everyone who commented on the previous post much appreciated. Welcome to my lovely new readers.
So something snapped in my mind on Saturday when I was thinking about what to wear to church on Sunday.
Lo and behold, I thought about a strapless dress I wore at one of my friends wedding back in 2009. I had so much fun at that wedding, I wore two dresses, enjoyed the girly nights at the hotel and the bachelorette party was off the chain. So much fun argghhh.
Anyways back to the dress, I decided to dig out the dress and it was all rough and guess what, it was no longer sweeping the entire floor like it was almost doing 3 years ago. Well I decided to improvise as I love dresses that are so long that they totally touch the floor.
Dress before with the belt on the back
I decided to convert this beautiful dress to a skirt, a full skirt however, I did not want to sew anything or take anything off. Hence what I did was, I folded the top bit in half to make something like a band-look-a-like with the belt still showing.
.....folded in half and this is the front view
I particularly love the colours and felt like going all traditional on Sunday so I did, well kinda of!
I wore a black top which I got from DP- my favorite store, I just love the top because the sleeves reveal my wrist allowing me to wear bracelets on my wrists and not under the top on my wrist or over the top on my wrist.
I was also able to dress like this because the snow had melted so I was feeling the girl yea feeling feeling the girl yea!. LoL
...doing the twirl
I tied the belt which is not so visible in the picture above in a bow and it was holding the dress skirt in place. I never expected it to turn out so nice considering my skinny frame but it turned out really cute. I wore black flats and black earrings which are also not visible and a red and black bracelet along with my wrists bands which can be seen in the picture above (I wear them all the time or lets say majority).
I know I tried even if you don't see anything nice in the assemble! ;-) hehe
So in the spirit of Valentine's which is tomorrow, I hope you like.
Happy Valentine's day sweeties.
Feel free to share roses and chocolates with Missy tee's. You can send me an email for my postal address.
Curious. Loving. Understanding. EXTREMELY friendly. Shy. Soon to be ex-introvert (work in progress). A lover of Christ. A braids lover. A travel enthusiast!
