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Soooo by popular demand- we haff back. Simples! (Luv that ad!)

Hola!

Como estas- bien supongo?

Konichiwa!

Good evening!

E Kale!
Ndo!

Sannu!

Eti Sen!
Aloha!
Sup sup?

Have I missed blogging? Well I do not even need to answer that- this post should answer!

I know I know I have been off the radar in fact, I have been far away from the radar until it located me on the new planet called Planet Busy!

Throughout the month of May I think it’s safe to say I was a conveyor belt- busy 24/7. I barely hung out at all in May- last May was a busy busy month for me. You want to know what I was doing? Gimme a call on 01-missytee and I’ll give you every tinny little detail. Don't wanna bore people with the uber long list.

How have you all been by the way?

To those who checked up and asked why my blog was so quiet- thanks a bunsheeeees! You all are the best!

I just finished reading Atilola’s book- Yep I started today and finished today. I started reading saying okay I should finish this by tomorrow but seriously I just could not get myself to close the page- it was fabulous I really like the Chief Goshe’s bit, My own enemy (I think there is a word missing there I can't recall atm but it should return), The Lagos Bus Conductor, The lady preacher- Fire and Brimstone preacher??, the street with numerous churches seriously lets just say I loved them all. I was putting off reading the book till I bought the hard copy but I could not resist.  I think I might be the first to actually write a review on Amazon- we’ll see. Oh and the bit Mrs PRESSURED? that says that people should not call me Mama *insert child’s name* I am Atilola even if I have 20 children.......... J’adore that bit- I agree 100%! Or is it this Parrot girl  you wanna talk about- okay I’ll stop analysing the book now. Click on the link on my blog on the right for more as in I mean buy the book and read it!

I shall read the book again!

I need to apologise publicly by the way to Atilola-  I did get your email but I haven’t been able to reply SORRY!!! but I have managed sort it out- I hope I am forgiven? :-) I’m not usually like that- I reply emails regularly it’s just this one time.

Ghana

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Eti sen
(Dear lovely Ghanaians, please correct me if I am wrong)

So for years now, I have been professing my love for Ghana. Like seriously, one would actually think I am hooked to a Ghanaian but that is not the case.
Now my obsession with Ghana began about six years or so ago and every time I have put it in my to do or more like to go list, I have always uhmmmmm skipped it for something else. Yes she is a busy lady.
Whenever, I see Ghanaians I always love talking to them and their accent to me is jest off de chain!! (just off the chain).  I am sooooo much in like with their accent because it just makes me smile.
I met a Ghanaian on one of my days out with my friend and we were heading to the train station to catch the train (Missy Tee what else will you go catch at a train station? A private jet? You do not have to explain what you were going to catch they already know. Ahh miss oxbridge).
Anyway, a friend who stays in the city we went to visit (Shef.) was very kind when we met at one of the very wonderful pretty colourful building we visited. We had to do a fun task as a team and this person happened to be on our team #thingsyoudowhenyouareatouristandthepeopleyoumeet. It was snowing cat and dogs so we were offered a ride to the train station as we had no car with us that day. When we got in the car, my fab friend struck a conversation about Ghana and its people. The music playing in the warm car, I was freezing cold in my socks, was Ghanaian music and I was just amazed at how lovely the song was and although I did not understand a word of it, it was just so danceable. So while in the car, my friend was talking about Banku- I believe that's a Ghanaian delicacy and I tried describing it and my dear at some point I just  had to shut up because I just could not describe it right.
So enroute , we had a little tour of S.field.  We saw the S.field foot and all that, the weird looking roads and buses. Twas fun. Anyway, we had a little discussion about Ghanaians being very colourful, funny and united and we had a good laugh in a space of about 15 mins. My friend said she attended a Ghanaian party and it was full of laughter, colour and plenty FOOD!! Well I think Africans are known for that.
When we got to the train station and we said bye to our heaven sent angel (it was snowing heavily so the ride had to be from God ha!) We both said , that was nice and fun.
I kind of wish now that I asked who sang the song playing and had written the track title down. Looking back now I am kind of rolling my eyes at myself.

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Have a fabulous week and when I do go to Ghana, I shall let you know!

Luv,

Back again with "Relationship" talks.

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Hola!!
Como estas? bien supongo?
(How are you? Fine I guess?)

So the 'relationship' talk came up again in one of my talks with the Ami . Thank goodness this one did not end in an argument.
We were talking about the main reason for going in a relationship.
From my point of view on what others think, I think majority of the ladies out there go in a relationship because they feel it is a necessity; they can't be alone without a man in their lives. I am not disputing this however I believe men also go into relationships because they just want to have a woman in their life for the moment- this is when they are not so ready or even planning on getting married in the nearest future.
Therefore, the ladies become exploited due to the patriarchal power the men have- some women and men give their all in relationships because they believe the other person is serious and would be their future partner. Minority of the people in this kind of scenario do go on to get married and all that because their feelings are mutual however majority end up in heartbreaks and all.
This topic is a bit confusing and rambling- don't be surprised if you are a bit lost with this.

Like always. here's a scenario;
a friend of mine who is still pretty young and in terms of marriage is not so ready for it right now was telling me about her "ex". According to her, she felt like she had a loose knot in her head when she was in the relationship. She said he would call her at night and say he is hungry and she will take her time out to cook for him and when she does call him to come pick the food up- he'd tell her to bring it over to his house which is not that close to hers. She also said during his birthdays- she bought him really expensive gifts and I can't seem to remember what she said she bought him once; he refused it and said why would she buy such "cheap" thing which was not SO or even cheap at all blah blah. So she said she apologised and took him to the store and on arrival at the store, she saw a really expensive gift and told him to take of which he embarrassed her or something- this was a long time ago so I do apologise that I can't remember the full story anymore.
She did explain that she thought she was mad in love with this dude but at the end, it turned out that he just wanted a "maid" or "girl figure" so he looked goooooddd in the midst of his friends. It turned out that the guy then realised that my lovely friend had stopped him in his tracks and he started begging. Thank God she was quick to get out of it.
My point- why exactly did she go in a relationship? She thought she loved him and thought it was high time she had some "man" power or figure in her life when that was the least of the things she needed.
Anyways, she did get out of that one- and has learnt her lesson so she is still single for now.

My friend said- this is another friend who is now married;

I need a man to complete me and not to rely on because majority of the women out there believe they need to rely on a man to be able to make it in life or be comfortable.

I agreed with her on the spot and really thought about it hard afterwards. I do not think ladies need men to make it in life, be comfortable and all that as they ok lemme say we think. This friend of mine was and is MADE and when I say MADE i mean MADE  I don't want to over exaggerate things now but she was pretty comfortable . If marriage was not a necessity I doubt if she'd actually have gone into it. She was comfortable as a spinster although she was pretty quiet and we had loads and loads of shopping, movies and lunch days oh how I miss you girl...see how marriage has moved you away from the city now :-(- I'm glad she is married though so I am not complaining. Even on her wedding day, you could see that she was complete- it was like a little piece of a puzzle being inserted into its place.
She made me understand that sometimes if you rely on men, you do not get the push to better yourself or be someone of your own, it makes you subordinate to men and vice versa if you are a man. But what can I say. Her words keep ringing in my mind whenever I think about the "relationship" topic.
When I see ladies hopping from one man to another, I keep thinking they could save themselves a lot of money, time, emotional stress and all that by waiting for the "right" one to "complete" them. 

So I can clarify things in my mind and to get everyones opinion on the topic- I have brought it here for you guys to please read and share you thoughts. What do you think? Thanks

PS- has anyone seen Good Deeds- Tyler Perry's new movie????? Oh my goodness- I absolutely love that movie to pieces. And why does Tyler Perry look so cute in that movie? Why aren't you a little younger and residing in my hood Tyler? *sigh* LOL.


Ok did I tell you guys that I got chocolate for Valentine's?  At least I got something however small- I won't tell you who gave me the choc! Here is a picture of the chocolate bar. What?? chocolate is chocolate whether bar or not. And I'm still waiting for Honeydame to share chinchin so I will let you guys know when she does. :-)

Source- I got the one with the blue strip

Luv,

February: The month of Love and SNOW!!!!

Yes you read that right snow. We've just had snow since Christmas and No, its not funny.
Hola!!
How are you doing? I seriously mean this question I wanna know how you are all doing so let me know.
I am sorry I have been away for so long. I have definitely missed blogging. So it February, the famous month named the Love Month (sigh!). Valentine's day is just 9 days away so lets look out for chocolate and roses from someone who knows our zip code or some postman who mixes the zip code with another. (Just teasing!)

So what makes February so special, its the second month of the year, a month were lovers are meant to show affection towards each other by exchanging gifts and all that (is that right?)
Anyway, I got into an argument with a friend of mind regarding public display of affection, PDA for short! Before I talk about that; let me gist you about I love my baby that's my baby. (I typed this last week and it was sat in my draft pile of posts anyway here it is, I 'm merging posts here)

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Yello' peoples (Okay that was MTN's way of saying Hello 10 years ago)
I am one for using sweet words like Darling, Sweetie, Sugar (love this the most), Love, Honey and so on randomly.....you get the gist.
But some people just take it way too far. I wouldn't have blogged about it if she had STOPPED saying baby!
I thought about this when a friend of mine whom we were inseparable back in Secondary School was telling me about her 'boyfriend' who she refers to all the time as 'My Baby'.
This young lady once told me when we were in Secondary School that her first boyfriend was going to be her husband but my darling friend kind of faced reality quickly. ***gist for another day****
We reconnected lately and we've been talking almost everyday and there is no time that she doesn't talk about 'Her Baby'. It gets on my nerves when it gets too much and I pull faces even though she can't see them but I do show her sometimes by sending her bbm ***rolling eyes or not interested*** but she doesn't get it most times because I am too nice I guess that I literally send them in a nice way.
Whenever she updates her BBM status, she just says the same thing- 'I miss my 'Baby' and all that. When she sends me IMs, majority of what she says is; I can't wait to see my baby, my baby is so busy, my baby bought me this, my baby and I are just out chilling, my baby and I are going to church, my baby and I....... and I find it so hard to just tell to zip it (a more polite way to say 'Shut it!').

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I am not saying she shouldn't tell me about her boyfriend but she goes too far with it sometimes and she also just doesn't quit saying my baby. She does realise sometimes that she is saying my baby too much but she can't control it. She says it so much that she can make you snap at her unconsciously.
I was one day pushed to actually tell her to quit the 'baby' talk because its getting too much.

Back to the argument now; we were talking as usual and she said ' When my baby and I go out, I get shy when he kisses me'. My dear, my head went rolling 4606 degrees and I said uhmmm lady what are you talking about? Before I say what I told her, I do not really believe in all that kind of PDA with a boyfriend, he has to put a ring on the finger and pay the necessary things beforehand. I am pretty traditional so please do not slaughter me.
So I asked her, are you meant to be doing that most especially when you are not sure he is for keeps? Kiss on the hand or cheek is fine but not going that far*. So I went on to say that what if you break up with him now and then you go out with another and then you'd kiss that one too? That means you'd have a list of kissed or PDAed ex-boyfriends?
She kept saying, I don't see anything wrong with that. You have to, it is necessary and  all that she was starting to get a little angry and I had to pull back a bit. She kept going on saying that they are really close and have been friends since childhood and they trust each other so much and bla bla. It got so complicated and she just went on and on but at the end of it all she said 'it is well' and that made me laugh because I was dazed, she was the one getting all upset about the issue. I just changed the topic.
I love things done in moderation and in the right way which is the traditional way.

So who are the fabulous people to tell about this other than my beautiful blogfam. What do you think? Am I too traditional or what? Was she right in her saying? Is being traditional wrong?
I really wanna know so please drop some thoughts. Thanks!

And oh yea we finally had some snow. Grrrr , not that I am excited about that but what can I do. My fingers were going numb holding the wheel and my back and shoulders were all tensed because I was just so stiff. Sigh!
Here are some pictures, its not even that heavy snow and also during the week when the snow was still prepping to fall, I noticed on my way out that my gloves and nail varnish MATCHED! It was so unplanned and I really did not know until I was heading out. I smiled to myself when I realised, I just hope no one saw me when I did that #littlethingsthatexciteyouinthemorning. Please ignore the keys and my lovely keyholder, love it!

The not-so thick snow

My Unplanned matching nail colour and glove

In other news, I heard about Chigal about 4 days ago while snooping around Youtube (not that I do it all the time). Like I always say, there is love in sharing.

You get itit? Please watch, she is HILARIOUS!

I look forward to reading your thoughts guys.
*apologies for the long post*
As always
Luv

Seriously- What is the matter?



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Hey bloghearts,

So whats the matter with Nigeria right now?

Its so annoying and heart-breaking to so see people losing their lives and being killed for no reason at all. So about 150 people have been killed in Kano, Nigeria by *you know who*.
I have been keeping away from saying anything about *you know who* on my blog but I just have to at this moment.
Why are Nigerians being treated like this? What is going on? Is it nearing the endtime as described Revelations? What? Why? Who? When?....those are the questions being asked by Nigerians.
-If you have noticed, I just am so dumbfounded about the issue that all I can do is ask questions-
It is disheartening and appalling. Seriously????

Also about the fuel price at N95? Nigerians kind of dissappointed mehn. I did not think they'd settle for anything higher than the former N65. They should note that because Uncle Jona has agreed for fuel price to be reduced to N95 does not mean he doesn't know what he is doing. When fuel price hits N147 in the future again, they will be unconsciously roped in to accept that price. For crying out loud, right now fuel is N3 away from N100 per litre!!!! Really? Wooooooow- I still don't gree- I think I'll continue my protest over here.

Also about Seal and Heidi Klum's divorce. WHAT?? I thought they were the perf... couple. All these famous people, J-Lo and Marc, Kim and Kris, Katy and Russell and now Heidi and Seal??
Wooowooowoooowie!
They keep getting married and divorced like they are changing their babies nappies!
Well......some rantings of mine.

Chao!

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Luv,

Happy 2012 + Nigeria we hail thee! +Funny video below **updated post**

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Merry Happy New Year sugars. *I'm going to act like I haven't been away for too long *silent apology*.
Hope 2012 is going good for you guys and you are keeping up with your resolutions? Don't let them slip though (wait till Feb and I bet you'd even forget about the list of resolutions).
So so so, I can't act like I haven't been hearing things about Nigeria the great in the news for like forever now. First thing I heard of was the fuel subsidy removal and the fuel price hike to N147 from N65.
First up, I think the people we have in government now are so rich that they believe everybody in Nigeria can afford to buy fuel for N147.
They are so covered in the face with the wealth and affluence that it is so hard for them to see that Nigerians are not happy with the way they are being governed.
*I do not intend to mention names or curse or point fingers*
Nigerians do not have a good source of electricity, majority of the people in Nigeria run their electrical appliances on their own private energy source, the ever faithful generators. No wonder Chinese and Japanese generator makers enjoy business in Nigeria. That is one thing the government has turned a blind eye to for decades. To further increase people's agony, they are hiking the fuel price meaning that they might not be able to use their generators like before, people might not be able to use their cars like before. This therefore leads to increased armed robbery rates not only due to the hike but the darkness as a result of no electricity source in Nigeria will become more pronounced, people will have to start walking and using public transport means of which they will also increase their transport fares forcing some people to resort to walking long distances or just point blank sitting at home, becoming jobless. Removing the fuel subsidy doesn't even seem like there is going to be any difference because it wasn't even felt before so removing it and adding it to something else also does not mean what it is being added to is going to be felt- that's just some rambling thoughts. Notwithstanding, I am not supporting the fuel subsidy removal.
Nigeria's so called budget is probably NOT for Nigeria because it is NOT felt in Nigeria. All that budget for maintenance, education and bla bla bla, it is all gist. Buildings have been erected for decades and they do not do any silly maintenance on them so they end up collapsing, yet they claim that there is some budget for building maintenance? pls tell that to the trees, they are willing to hear all that, that's just an example.

2011 so far....from the heart!

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Sometimes the best way to speak is to speak from the heart.
I am going to try do this also try not to pull things back because I tend to do that sometimes all the time.

Its the last day of 2011 literally although there is just one day to go. I am so thankful to God for bringing us all, yes us all including you reading this post thus far and also for where He is leading us to.
Personally, 2011 has been one heck of a year. I made some decisions that I took wayyy too long to make and some that I did not even in a million years think I was going to have to make. Sometimes things  just do not go according to your own plan because your plan is not good enough for God. I had some plans but He wrote them off and said no that is not what is best for you right now and do you know what? I had no choice than to obey Him because he sure knows best. All of this just brings to my mind "Lean not on your own understanding".

Looking back at 2011, I had days where I was just plain down and nobody could do anything to make me feel better, I had days were I cried my eyeballs out alone in my closet and immediately I stepped out of the door, this sudden smile cropped up and I looked like life was just perfect but deep down inside of me I was shattered, plain hurt and unable to believe and decide.
2011 also made me miss my younger days when I had no care in the world because I was just too young to worry or think about things like I do now.
It was one heck of a year I will say. A year that I cried when I tried to look inwards to see the real Tee because I just couldn't decipher which one I should go with, not that I couldn't really find the real Tee but the fact that I had to make some decisions for a certain Tee to remain or go for good.
Looking back in the days, seeing what I could have done better and what I could have lived without doing but I always tried to hide behind that "everybody makes mistakes" shadow  outside but deep inside I criticised myself so bad and felt extremely bitter all the time.
Its crazy when people ask you "How are you?" and all you say with a smile is "I'm fine thanks". Whenever I answered such question I asked myself- Are you really fine Tee?
2011 was one heck of a year! Have I said that already? Sorry!
At the beginning of the year, I was so ecstatic- you know that New Year feeling, I was hyped but as the year went on, the feeling kind of dropped.
I started my blog at the beginning of the year, so that's something to be happy about.
This year I kinda hid myself from quite alot of people for a personal reason (note the 'a') which sometimes I said to myself" why exactly are you doing this?"
Its crazy because other people just did not think it was worth me hiding but like they say- its only the person wearing the shoes that knows where it hurts and Mayne they just could not wear those shoes.

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2011; a year that I kinda look back at now and my eyes fill with tears of mixed emotions and my stomach knots. A friend of mine and myself kinda parted ways partially because my friend thought it was to do with him but I couldn't bring myself to explain to the point where he could understand what I was saying. All of this made me send annoying vibes his way which I did not do intentionally but I hope he understands. I took my anger out on him and hearing things did not help either. I ended up saying things the way they should not have been uttered but I can't and couldn't even explain it to him which also made him say somethings that I am trying to believe he did not mean to say....(I hope so!) We were pretty close friends...I have said it before but I hope you do understand if you do read this.

Moving on, my phone was off for a month in 2011 and people tried reaching me but I was just unable to pick myself up to actually turn on my phone. I cried my eyes out and screamed Jesus's name out so loud that I bet the neighbour must have thought that someone was having a baby(that's what I can think of)! But you know what? He says that the plans He has for each and everyone of us is better than the ones that we have put down.
I guess I relied too much on my plan that it literally shattered me when He pushed it all aside. Lord I'm sorry for going against "Lean not on your own understanding". I guess I got lost in the moment.

Christmas in the air and there's love everywhere- Its Green!

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Sweethearts,

Its been a while since I posted something on here.
Well thanks to everyone who commented on my previous posts. Muchos Gracias!
To the new followers, thank you so much for joining. You guys are fabulous. God bless ya plentayyy!

The weather is gradually changing and its getting colder and colder. No, no snow required please. I have been around doing the norm.
About a couple of weeks ago, after church we went over to a chinese store to get groceries. My shopping companion saw a bag of clean big onions for five bucks. Well, you know Nigerians- we bought the onions and then this particular guy insisted on carrying the big heavy back to the boot of the car for me. I felt he was being nice, he actually works in the chinese store- so I was thankful and led the way. After dropping the heavy bag in the boot, he asked;
Guy- Do you have a boyfriend?  (in the most mumbled german or whatever accent I've ever heard- I wonder how I was able to make out what he said)
Tee- Why do you ask?
Guy- I like you- you know?
Tee- (Bursts out laughing) Oh! Thanks a lot, thanks (walks away)
I couldn't help but laugh. On my way outta the store, he positioned himself in a place where I could see him- however I walk out acting like I didn't even know he was standing there. 'Twas funny.

A while ago too, I had to get the bus so on while getting off the bus- I realised this particular guy seeking my attention; I thought he was lost or something so therefore being a nice missy that I am *wink*, I stopped to hear him and possibly help him out if I could.
The next thing he said was;
Guy- Excuse me, do you leave around this area?
Tee- How may I help?
Guy- I am interested in you, are you interested in me?
Tee- Are you kidding me? I'm sorry I gotta leave. Chao!

So these things still happen in this day and age? You've gats to be kidding me.
Guys are really brave mayne! I bet some other ladies could have provided them with wonderful insults and do they actually think ladies will agree to their on the spot request. I don't even know your name, never seen you face before....... wow. God bless the brothers out there! Amen someborri?!


Christmas is in exactly 21 days and its not even funny- I don't even have a christmas list! I normally am organised when it comes to Christmas but I dunno what happened this time.
I love the Christmas-sy atmosphere, you get and give gifts, its cosy majority of the time and so on.
Oh well darlings, whatever gift you get from me this christmas; even if it isn't as nice- just know that I love ya! (Apology for not planning in advance). LOL!
Gotta hit the stores next weekend.....

In order gist, I'mma be braiding my hair in a few days and I'm pretty hyped about it; I've been announcing that I might braid it over two days because I am not one for sitting in the same chair for HOURS- Uhmmmmm Na! So yea. I'll probably take a picture of it and put it up here.

Till then, I leave you with this song that has been on replay for a while now;
The young man singing at 4.23 is ..........*clears throat*. I looooove his voice.


Have a good Christmas!

Love y'all

Missy Tee signs out for now.........

Submission in marriage? So so. In a relationship- Boy Purleaseee!

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Hey there sugar-sugar,

How’s it going? Christmas is drawing near-no no no Christmas shopping hasn't started pour moi!

The heading is that because I really don’t know what to type up there.

Well I am talking about submission today! This topic came to my mind when I remembered a question a friend of mine asked me months ago. 

I believe submission in marriage is half and half where the wife submits and the husband.......- therefore removing the hierarchy and creating a mutual view of each other. And in a relationship, its half and quarter (lol).

You see at weddings, almost every wedding I have attended whenever the elderly men do approach the microphone to give a speech or advice to the couple, they always say- "Bride- be submissive to your husband" but they never seem to have anything to say to the groom. That drives me gaga because it feels like they are saying "Bride- you've got no power whatsoever because this man is now your boss" errrrrr I don’t think so!

And whenever the older women give a piece of advice, they say- respect your husband because they've had decades to sharpen themselves up and to understand what it really means to be submissive so they don't really agree with the submission gist.

It’s in the bible quite alright, 1 Peter 3.1 it says and I quote

 "In the same way, you wives be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behaviour of their wives".  

We are human and we interpret things differently- I interpret this as- if he is acting up, leave him be and respect his opinions so that he will (when he is disobedient and realises) understand why you let him be and return to his normal self. Now you all might interpret that differently from what I said up there but you see people take this as something else. However, this is only a small portion of how I understand this verse. The rest for another day.

It also says in Ephesians 5.22;

'Wives submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord'.

When it comes to saying "be submissive"- I don't think it means be a dumdumb@dummie.com. I see people often take this 'be submissive' thing too far. When you get married, you are becoming someone's companion, second half, and so on and so forth not someone's maid or dummie!

I often see people (wives) being treated like they are maids. The husband comes home and she is the one that has to remove his shoes, pick his suitcase , iron his clothes for tomorrow, cook his food every blessed day, wash his plates, cut his nails and all that...sugar are you serious?. I believe you should be doing those because you feel like not because he "bought" you and then you have to do it because he sees it as your duty or you are destined to do that. It is a lady's duty but it should be divided amongst each other but really is that what being submissive is all about?

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I wanna be FAT + Halloween + Random

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Hey darling.
Sorry I've been away for too long.
Thanks a lot to The Relentless Builder for the Versatile Blogger award. It is much appreciated. Thanks darl!. Please do visit the Relentless Builder's blog. Its amazing.
Welcome to the new followers and everyone that checked up on me, Thank you!!! ;-)


Yea you read that right.
I am so tired of being skinny slim miss thing. It is getting really annoying. There is no day someone doesn't comment about my height and weight.
Flipping through magazines and I am like I won't mind having a little bit of fat here and there and over here and over there.
Don't give me that chubby gist, I want to have a little bit more flesh here and there.
Sometimes, I get really hyped with myself looking in the mirror saying;
"look at you, miss perfect figure (I wish)- not too thin, not FAT, just past the borderline, you go girl""
Other days I'm like;
"look at you, you are so skinny, when you are not a model- eat some food Tee!"

I do have conversations with myself alot so pls do not think I am going "gaga".

My next door neighbour has been pestering me for a long time about going for a photoshoot, telling me to set up a model portfolio and take them to agencies- she went as far as telling me she'd go with me if I am too shy to go alone. I just kept telling her- OK I'll do it. This has been on for over 2 years and right now, I literally run away from her. When I see her coming from the north, I turn sharply to the east because I've totally run out of excuses now. But she thinks I am not too slim, other people have told me to "keep your stature this way, don't eat junk food so as not to spoil your figure" and my response is a sarcastic grin and the thought of Yea right, quit psyching me.
Others have simply told me- Tee, try eat some more food and I'm like I do eat and they say to me but not much (which is true). I get filled to the brim quite easily so yea.
But for ye ladies who are good at gaining and losing weight without stress, can you give tips on this one?

In other news, its  halloween day today and I kept looking at little kids dressed in scary outfits and all. What came to my mind was what my great grandmother would have said- Why are all these children dressed like witches and wizards, are they going mad? (translate that to Yoruba if you can). She was hilarious. bless her.

I do apologise for being MIA for over 2 weeks. Although I commented on blogs, I was doing that in motion so I haven't actually been able to blog for a bit for that reason.

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 I was thinking about this the other day and I felt you guys might find it weird;

Can u henmargine? (Like seyi-law 'd say) if you haven't figured that I love comedy then you are ...............wait for it. .............bewreeful. Anyway, they always say there is no place like home. True that but honestly, somethings we complain about are really fun things and if we were to get rid of them then the boredom would start FULL TIME.
You see, Nigeria is amazingly amazing and the things people complain about daily I find interesting and fun. Here we go -

Traffic- oh wow. Traffic in Lagos for sure is fun to me. Lemme explain myself before you cut my head off. I love being stuck in road traffic with someone I am head over heels for. Someone that will make me laugh and someone I can say anything and everything to. It is when we are stuck in traffic that the bonding occurs the most but fresh air better be flowing if not, I'll be a bit cranky.

NEPA/PHCN moments- When they do their thing during the day and its not so wise to turn on a generator, these moments are fabulous because you get to joke around with people, play games, know weird and random things about people

Mechanics- watching them is quite amusing. They are characters and wonderful. The way they talk, shout, joke, play and sing. Watching them is my thing so what I do is stay in a corner where they can barely see me and watch them. Its like a 3D movie playing before your eyes.

NB- I do nag about these things sometimes but its kinda enjoyable at times.

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Lastly, during my cousin's wedding a few years ago, she decided to get married in a far away city in Nigeria and cheerfully chose me as a maid of honor along with mon sisto. (She wasn't into the whole long train thing so she had 2 maids of honor). We had to stay over at a hotel and my sister and I were hungry one night and we decided to order some food. I don't know what I was thinking- we had no menu, so we sillyingly (if there is a word like that) asked for Spaghetti Bolognaise, thinking they might actually have it;
Tee- Hi, we'd like to order some food please?
Person on the other end of the phone- What would you like? (not giving us options)
Tee (on sister and I's agreement)- Do you have Spaghetti Bolognaise?
Person......- No, we only have Dangote

....Dangote is a spaghetti brand in Ng.

Hae a fab one loves,

As usual, apologies for the typos if any, I'll edit it soon. Its 23.15pm. Sleep time.

I THINKS I AM IN LOVE- ALL OF A SUDDEN!

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Hey darlings,

How are you? Looking forward to the new week? Well I bet its gonna be a great one thanks to God in advance.
Ok so all of a sudden I just started singing this song and I didn't realise when I went on Youtube and just typed in  "Fall in Love" and ever since its been on replay. I'm like "I'm in love, are you in love?"
So I think I'm in love- hey, love is love right?"



Have a fab one !

Luv

Another week

Hello Sweethearts

How are you all doing? How was your weekend? Did you attend any party at all?
Well the weekend was alright, we thank God! Last week was amazing to say the least.Can't complain. Did not do much, just did some essentials that all. Before I knew it, it was Friday already.....sigh! What a week!
Look up to hills where help comes from, my help comes from the Lord....
My voice is kinda changing due to a slightly sore throat so to speak I kinda have to stretch my voice so you can hear. It ain't staying for long IJN!!
Well I am just checking up on my fellow bloggers, followers and all to see that everybody is doing fine.
I wish you a wonderful and favour filled week ahead.

God bless you plenty!!!!!!

Luv

Tee!

Piece of advice- Sure made me smile

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To all the girls who are in a hurry to have a boyfriend or get married, a piece of biblical advice: "Ruth patiently waited for her mate Boaz." While you are waiting on YOUR Boaz, don't settle for any of his relatives; Broke-az, Poor-az, Lyin-az, Cheating-az, Dumb-az, Drunk-az, Cheap-az, Lockedup-az, Goodfornothing-az, Lazy-az, and especially his third cousin Beatinyo-az. Wait on your Boaz and make sure he respects Yoaz...Repost if this made you smile :-)

To Great-Grand Ma A *Long Post Alert*

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Thoughts of Mama A came to my mind, and I couldn't resist typing.
Mama A- like I love to call you now!

You were one real hilarious woman. My James Bond(ress); due to the detective work that you did on your  "custom" walking stick. Whenever a bead came off your custom made (lol) walking stick (cane like they call it now), you’d call and say to me “You have started removing the beads off my cane”.
In return, I gave you confused looks because I was not guilty as accused by you.

Years later, I realised that whenever your precious cane fell, the beads broke and came off as
some were not tightly glued (not that I was removing them) but still that did not make me dislike you.
We got along really well even though you were more that 70 years older than I was then (although
you did not get along with my siblings as well as we did maybe because they were older and
impatient with you I guess). Seeing your face and how you did things made me a patient and good
teacher to you of course!

We used to take long walks around the neighbourhood (to stretch your legs and bones as you used
to think). You made a couple of friend during our long walks and they both became your close friends
that you always went to hang out with, whenever you came around.

 Whenever I heard “Mama A is coming to visit”, I got so giddy and eager to see you. Whenever the car pulled up then, I'd to rush and pull the door open and squeeze you as tight as I could, I did not care or think that I could have broken one of your bones (cuz I was too young to reason to that point).

You had your favourite chair in the living room that you sat in all the time. At some point, we tried
persuading you to sit somewhere else so the chair to could rest but you always laughed at that
.
You were such a big fan of Passions (Soap Opera)- whenever it came on at night; you were always in that particular chair in front of the TV, ready to watch.

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You loved Timmy but hated Tabitha (you called her Aje ni).You loved Charity, Sheridan and the rest of them.
You followed the story line clearly and whenever NEPA struck, you’d sigh and then relax your back
further into the chair as though you were biting your tongue to avoid placing a curse on NEPA
official in front of your great-grand kids. When Passions is over for the night, then you’d narrate the
story again to us and it was so much fun. You did not understand a word of what they said but you
understood every single move and the story.
Update on that Mama A: Ait never completed Passions!!
But here's the end, I found it on Youtube!

Even at your old age, you were one great cook. I remember when you made Okro soup mixed with
stew *licking my lips*, I made sure I cleared my plate and even wiped it clean before taking it to wash.
It was fantabulous! You always made the typical village delicacy taste wonderful in the city *wink*
Whenever it was time for you to eat rice, I enjoyed staring at you while you ate. (Cousin) Nikki would
say to you while you were busy gathering and eating the grains on the side of the plate instead of eating the main rice itself- “Mama, eat the food in the middle of the plate not the straying ones at the edge”.
You simply ignored her saying and enjoyed eating rice from the tip to the middle of the plate instead
of the opposite way.
I remember the day I was just about to eat Indomie Noodles in your presence, you yelled and said (in Yoruba) “What are these worms?”Are you going to eat these worms?”
You made me laugh so hard that day, I think you left me in stitches. When I told you what I was about
to eat, you cracked me up even further;
Tee- “Mama, it is called I-N-D-O-M-I-E” not worms
Mama A- “Ehn, Indoyiee?”
Tee- “No, Indomie
Mama A- Indoyiee (shining your teeth)

Not Enough-Matthew 7:21

Hey there,

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Yesterday's open heavens devotional topic was scary. When I read the memory verse, it shook me. Matthew 7.21 says "Not everybody that saith unto me,Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven"
In order words, not every minister, born again christian or church goer will go to heaven.
Ah Lord have mercy!

I LOVE YOU----Whats the biggie?

Sweetiess!

Just a minor thought
Saying 'I LOVE YOU' feels like a real task when it being said sometimes. Its easy saying it to people that are family but why is it so weird when you say it to an ordinary friend?
I do say it to my girls and boys ( but not what you think **before you think otherwise *rolling eyes*) because I do mean it but when some friends says for example over the phone when you are just about hanging up...I Love You- I personally am like THANK YOU! because it kinda feels weird and isnt expected but I am quick to getting used to it and saying it back....but there are some friends that it feels so comfy saying it to them even if it the first time they are saying it to you or vice versa.
Although when it is first said, you are like ohhhhhhhh okaayyyyyyyyyy...... but as time goes on you kinda get used to it and just say it back as it becomes a reflex action (I know I do!).
A friend of mine when we were in high school texted me one day and at the end of the text typed- LOAF YA!. It was hilarious at the time because I was like that is so clever of her but hey she didnt wanna create any "homo" thoughts so you've gotta express ur affection (still love in my dictionary..duhh) somehow to your homegirls or boys (so the boys dont feel left out lol). Back to the story, ever since then, we haven't really grown outta saying LOAF YA to each other and it did spread to the rest of the clique (yes a clique- we were nice though!) We still say it to each other TILL DATE!
But when a total stranger says I LOVE YOU, why does it feel so weird and when you wanna reply, you kinda stutter and think twice before responding.

Have you realised that guys think its soooooooooo weird to say I LOVE YOU or Love you to people most especially guys (they think it sounds .......)

In church one day, I cant fully remember but I think the pastor said to the congregation to "Turn to your neighbour and say I Love You" the whole church kinda hesitated


so he had to say "Turn to your neighbour and say I love you with the love of the Lord"-------I'm not saying don't love with the love of the Lord but why couldn't they just say I love you to they neighbour even if they dont know each other?



Sometimes- I say to people
Define Love (5 Marks)
List the characteristics of Love (10 marks)........what am I like!

But why is that mentality of when someone says I LOVE YOU, they mean something totally different?
I know its something very sensitive to just say like that but whats wrong is saying I LOVE YOU to someone you met today and your friendship is a day old?

I am not saying I'm saint that I dont shy away from saying it sometimes but to be honest, I was just thinking- whats the biggie in saying I LOVE YOU- why do people always have two takes when someone says it to 'em.
You dont hate your friends thats why you are friends- cuz you love'em but why is it weeeyyeeerrrddd saying the words I LOVE YOU to them when you really do?!





P.S- I know this post is all over the place- apologies for that, I just dint wanna let this one slip off again, just thought I should voice this out!

Well now you know I LOVE YOU!

Tee!

Thanks for stopping by!

All for Sam Loco!



Sam Loco (middle)

Hello Darlings,
I am so sorry I left for too long- I'm back now (sorta)!
Over the week I heard the story about Sam Loco and it was absolutely shocking- so here I am writing this lil something in honor of the funniest Nigerian actor - Sam

Two (or more) girls and a guy...whats up with that?

Hey lovelies

It isn't a new thing that guys date two (or more....silly) girls at a time but the first annoying thing is that the girls might not be aware of such. Guys *of nowadays* are not satisfied with one girlfriend at a time, even if they are, once they see another girl that is cuter than the former then they find a flimsy excuse and hop off to the latter (gosh girls have seen a lot) or better still keep both. Then when another one comes along, they then do the same thing. (ptschewwwwww). Yet they keep saying to each one of the girls- you are the butter on my bread, the sugar in my tea, the toothpaste on my brush, the only pin for my blackberry, the seasoning in my food....feed that to the chimpanzees at U.I zoo!
Whatever happened to 'clinging to one girl"?
I once heard a guy say that he is dating 'Girl A' and 'Girl B' but he already gave girl B a promise ring....are u seriously kidding me? That girl will actually be thinking that she is the only soup for his Amala.....gos forbis!
The second annoying thing is if a girl is caught dating two guys, they call her a nightwalker but if a guy is caught doing such they call him a "big boy"....dude get on up outta here....silly!
Alot of guys these days refer to girls as mobile phones, they can cohabit so long they don't come in contact with each other while being with the owner lest they interfere with each other and they can get changed anytime or better still as a fan- the blades never come in contact with each other!
Boy please.....
They say the guys aren't smiling right? well the girls ain't joking either! Standing up to double dating now...
Some do say that if one (girl) has something the other (girl) doesn't have, they compliment and make up for each....really? dude get a life!
The elders say: two wives/girlfriends is equal to double wahala/problem! So would you rather...........(put the puzzle together).
So if you are dating two girls to get the name tag "player"??? Honey you are on a long thing!
 A ship can't have two captains- if you don't like a girl as much, why date her then- if you know it ain't gonna get anywhere????
When a guy says, I don't double date, I usually have two takes. I'm like "you said what? What did you say? "*thick Nigerian accent*. Its rare to actually find a guy that genuinely doesn't double date or hasn't double dated.
One man that I really look at and wonder how he is coping with not two but three wives is the Nigerian King Oba Tejuoso...they recently visited the UK and they were all over each other- the wives were all united but I kept saying to myself: are they really like that or they are just putting up a good act for the audience? Only the God of all flesh knows.  Okay okay back to the main topic now: guys what is the main aim?
Girls how do you find out that he is double dating??
What will you do if he actually is dating you alongside other "girls"?
Guys, why do you double date? Whats up with that?

Would love to read your own opinions so please drop a comment......Thank yewwww

What are you listening to? ......Who are you listening to?

Are you listening to words that put you down?

Be assured you are gonna be downcast..

Are you listening to words that excite and enlighten you?
Be assured of long lasting excitement and enlightenment

Are you listening to people with negative thoughts and words?
Be sure to have a negative mind and deceitful friendship....

Are you listening to people with positive/good thoughts and words?
Be sure to have a positive and progressive mind, topped with a truthful and reliable friendship.....

The words from the heart that proceed outta the mouth are as sharp as a brand new knife if not sharper...they can make or break one!

Positive thoughts produce a positive being/personality, gives you the knowledge of looking ahead with a positive mind..
Words and people that add value to your life make you a very much inspired person that makes a great impact wherever you go!

So hence the question.....What are you listening to? Who are you listening to?

Please give it a thought!

Lots of love,

Missy Tee....

Nigeria- Whats the future like?



Nigeria

Nigeria is a country with a great dream and future but cannot be realised at the moment due to the aggravated and intense selfishness possessed by the current government.
This is a country that has most of its population living in hope and faith but without seeing something to hold on to as an assurance that the country would be better tomorrow. There are thousands of people that say daily that Nigeria will get better..we are all positive that the country would live up to its real standards but hey.....we cannot blame the current government alone they have their faults so do we the civilians. We all complain and moan that this is not working, that road is bad, the electricity is a write off. When are we going to stop moaning and stand up and put heads and hands together to make the country what we want it to be.
When taxes are meant to be paid, we all turn deaf ears and act like they aren't talking to us, when we are meant to register to vote we don't bother making an effort, even if we do register when its time to vote we all don't. We all have a part to play and if we don't play it well then we should not expect much but if we want a better standard of living....we should make an effort and play our parts exceedingly well.
I am passionate about my country and seeing it in a state is not good.
God has fully blessed Nigeria but the country has not utilised the blessings in an appropriate and right manner to the fullest.
Nigeria will always be there...it is up to US the current youths to make the country better in our time and make a difference.
We all say that WE ARE THE FUTURE....but words without action are totally USELESS...lets get up, hand in hand, heads together, truthfully, faithfully make the country better and comfier for ourselves, the older generation and the babies/generations unborn.
We need to be that turning point of Nigeria.....we need to bring the country to a point that it is well recognised in the good books of the world.
Lets STOP putting Nigeria down,
Lets activate the words ' WE ARE THE FUTURE'. We are amazing, we are the heart of Africa, we are the giant of Africa. We are the only ones that can do this, we are the only ones that can build the country and make it greater than ever before.
I have got a few words for the haters of Nigeria------ Get outta the way of the dream, we would make Nigeria a better place and you would be amazed to the point that you 'will' be convinced to change your mind.
Its heartbreaking seeing Nigeria: a land of plenty- suffer and lack and be put down in every way!
Don't you feel bad for the country at times......words can't simply explain thoroughly what is being conveyed here but I hope you do have the passion for Nigeria like I do.
Nigeria will live to exceed the expectation of the entire universe.
Be proud of your country, my country, our country...the great Nigeria!
Nigeria and Nigerians should not be put down any longer for lack of knowledge, progress and advanced technology.
We are so amazing....that is the least we can be!

We are going to make it better and bigger, cleaner and comfier, greater and more advanced! Are you with me? Drop a few words if you are!


Nigeria...Forever strong...long live Nigeria, God bless Nigeria!