Hola!!
How are you doing? I seriously mean this question I wanna know how you are all doing so let me know.
I am sorry I have been away for so long. I have definitely missed blogging. So it February, the famous month named the Love Month (sigh!). Valentine's day is just 9 days away so lets look out for chocolate and roses from someone who knows our zip code or some postman who mixes the zip code with another. (Just teasing!)
So what makes February so special, its the second month of the year, a month were lovers are meant to show affection towards each other by exchanging gifts and all that (is that right?)
Anyway, I got into an argument with a friend of mind regarding public display of affection, PDA for short! Before I talk about that; let me gist you about I love my baby that's my baby. (I typed this last week and it was sat in my draft pile of posts anyway here it is, I 'm merging posts here)
Source |
Yello' peoples (Okay that was MTN's way of saying Hello 10 years ago)
I am one for using sweet words like Darling, Sweetie, Sugar (love this the most), Love, Honey and so on randomly.....you get the gist.
But some people just take it way too far. I wouldn't have blogged about it if she had STOPPED saying baby!
I thought about this when a friend of mine whom we were inseparable back in Secondary School was telling me about her 'boyfriend' who she refers to all the time as 'My Baby'.
This young lady once told me when we were in Secondary School that her first boyfriend was going to be her husband but my darling friend kind of faced reality quickly. ***gist for another day****
We reconnected lately and we've been talking almost everyday and there is no time that she doesn't talk about 'Her Baby'. It gets on my nerves when it gets too much and I pull faces even though she can't see them but I do show her sometimes by sending her bbm ***rolling eyes or not interested*** but she doesn't get it most times because I am too nice I guess that I literally send them in a nice way.
Whenever she updates her BBM status, she just says the same thing- 'I miss my 'Baby' and all that. When she sends me IMs, majority of what she says is; I can't wait to see my baby, my baby is so busy, my baby bought me this, my baby and I are just out chilling, my baby and I are going to church, my baby and I....... and I find it so hard to just tell to zip it (a more polite way to say 'Shut it!').
Oh no not again!! Source |
I was one day pushed to actually tell her to quit the 'baby' talk because its getting too much.
Back to the argument now; we were talking as usual and she said ' When my baby and I go out, I get shy when he kisses me'. My dear, my head went rolling 4606 degrees and I said uhmmm lady what are you talking about? Before I say what I told her, I do not really believe in all that kind of PDA with a boyfriend, he has to put a ring on the finger and pay the necessary things beforehand. I am pretty traditional so please do not slaughter me.
So I asked her, are you meant to be doing that most especially when you are not sure he is for keeps? Kiss on the hand or cheek is fine but not going that far*. So I went on to say that what if you break up with him now and then you go out with another and then you'd kiss that one too? That means you'd have a list of kissed or PDAed ex-boyfriends?
She kept saying, I don't see anything wrong with that. You have to, it is necessary and all that she was starting to get a little angry and I had to pull back a bit. She kept going on saying that they are really close and have been friends since childhood and they trust each other so much and bla bla. It got so complicated and she just went on and on but at the end of it all she said 'it is well' and that made me laugh because I was dazed, she was the one getting all upset about the issue. I just changed the topic.
I love things done in moderation and in the right way which is the traditional way.
So who are the fabulous people to tell about this other than my beautiful blogfam. What do you think? Am I too traditional or what? Was she right in her saying? Is being traditional wrong?
I really wanna know so please drop some thoughts. Thanks!
And oh yea we finally had some snow. Grrrr , not that I am excited about that but what can I do. My fingers were going numb holding the wheel and my back and shoulders were all tensed because I was just so stiff. Sigh!
Here are some pictures, its not even that heavy snow and also during the week when the snow was still prepping to fall, I noticed on my way out that my gloves and nail varnish MATCHED! It was so unplanned and I really did not know until I was heading out. I smiled to myself when I realised, I just hope no one saw me when I did that #littlethingsthatexciteyouinthemorning. Please ignore the keys and my lovely keyholder, love it!
The not-so thick snow |
My Unplanned matching nail colour and glove |
You get itit? Please watch, she is HILARIOUS!
I look forward to reading your thoughts guys.
*apologies for the long post*
As always
Luv
I've been fine, thank you.
ReplyDeleteEvery human has a right to his/her opinion and being 'traditional' is not wrong in any way. I totally support your argument.
Why give him a piece if he won't pay for everything???
Interesting..I am doing good thanks.
ReplyDeleteAs for being traditional thats fine.I mean to each is own.If she feels thats cool then she should be ready to bare the consequence of it in the longrun thats if there is any.
Personally a peck or kiss here and there isnt bad but the one where they are french kissing in public and pressing each others yansh i dont understand o. I guess she is too excited talking about her baby and she isnt traditional. The main thing is you have told her what you think she really dont have to take it if she doesnt. Friendship is about respecting each others opinion even if its totally opposite of what you believe.
PDA. I was gona do a post about it. I saw this couple at the beach going at it. Needless to say, they gave i and my friends plenty x-rated eye candy...at the beach! For me, french-kissing in public? No No. i'd say, get a room!
ReplyDeleteBydway, i'm doing fab.
February is Valentine month and I think it's when some bad boys become good guys to get something.lol
ReplyDeleteI think your friend is in love, it happens when you can't stop talking about that one special person.lol
That Chigal is something else,will check it out.
she's probably just in love that's all,its ok to be traditional really.everyone has their own way of expressing their feelings.
ReplyDeletesome wierd reason, I can't reply everyone individually even when I click the reply button. Grrr
ReplyDelete@MissPweedyface- Thats great. I 'm glad you share my point of view.Thank you love.
@UVG- Thanks darl! I hope she gets to understand at some point before she gives him everything without realising. *sigh*
@Toinlicious- Are you serious? So you did not cover your eyes or spray them with some sand so they could stop? LoL.
@Destiny- Oh thats true. The bad boys become loving to get new perfume. Hehehe Thanks for stopping by.
@Martha- How are you girl? You've been rather quiet. Thats got to be some strong love I can't comprehend then, oh well. ;-)